Flashbacks – involuntary recurrent memory that occurs primarily due to new triggers reminding a person of their past trauma, you can see they lose the sense of present time and connection with the world around them, are in distress – softly bring the person back to the present, ground them, check-in what is going on for them; you might need to ask them to gently shift their gaze to connect with you, ask simple questions about the surroundings or basic facts (their age, present year, day of the week), help them distinguish between past and present reality and remind them that right now they are safe.
Dissociation – it’s a defence mechanism, a mental process of disconnecting from one’s thoughts, feelings, memories or sense of identity – in shock, we switch off, and that is how we protect ourselves – so please respect that people might not want to connect with their emotions, they might seem cold and distant, it has nothing to do with you but with their need to survive which can sometimes move on even beyond traumatic times – what helps it to be patient, soft, respectful and to recognise it as a natural defence reaction
Calm space – the word “safe” concerning a mental space where we feel protected can be triggering, just as breathing can be triggering for some people. However, you can remind people that this is a calm space – they are safe. So do something nurturing together, talk to them softly and ask questions to switch on their cortex (part of the brain responsible for rational thinking and awareness), suggest grounding exercises to help people learn how to calm body and mind.
“How to find a good therapist?” – Friends ask me this question quite often, and I remember being quite worried about this myself: how do I even start looking for a good therapist? How do I choose one suitable for my needs? How do I know they are professional enough to keep me safe and sound?
First of all, I would like to extend my thoughts towards all the people affected by the current war in Ukraine – I hope you and your networks are safe. Voxel Hub is here to explore all perspectives critically; however, in moments of the clear attack on our humanity, we stand for peace. We stand we Ukraine and with each and every individual affected by the events in the region – regardless of their physical, national or psychological belonging.
This month we are moving away from planned content to highlight how you can use social media to access news.
Welcome to our February Newsletter. As we enter the lunar year of the Tiger, I am thinking a lot about the myth of the scary Internet. I was working with a fabulous therapist the other day, exploring my future plans and worries on a sand tray – a tool that helps us tap into the subconscious. What emerged for me as a critical challenge was the increasing negative bias most of us carry concerning social media and other connected platforms. Tools that were designed for collaboration are mostly seen today as beasts in their own right. Those inner worries we carry then affect our perception of reality, and thus we tend to make safe but limiting choices.
This might be a bit of a niche hobby, but I love to browse the Internet for the new developments in neuroscience, especially mapping out the brain. So today, let’s have a look at some of those videos. A lot of my clients arrive worrying about the impact of connected technologies on their wellbeing, but the moment I ask about their hobbies and how they nurture them, watching free documentaries, …
Imagine being a hibernating bear and doing this in your cave: take a deep breath counting slowly to three, hold it counting to three, exhale counting to three and hold again counting to three.