Talking about endings can feel hard at first, but it can also be quite liberating. As they say: a load shared is a load halved. A lot of healing comes from social interactions, validation, and acknowledging our feelings. Sometimes that is all we need to pause and put the heavy feelings down; reflect before moving on.
That’s what we do during our coaching and counselling training: we learn about the importance of endings and practice holding those for and with our clients. We read, discuss and reflect on the science of grief, identity changes, loss, final stages of work and other endings to feel more equipped to support our clients safely. You can do this too.
Thinking about endings can sometimes feel scary, especially when dealing with complex grief, suicide, traumatic loss or sudden changes in our reality. It may feel right to pause, switch off our feelings, or dissociate even. However, accepting our feelings and exploring them safely may help the healing.
This month, I would like to talk about endings because I had many of them recently and learned a lot about the importance of handling them well – especially in therapeutic and coaching work.
Welcome to our May Newsletter. This month, due to my work travels, our newsletter is a little bit later. Please, accept my apologies for that. I was supporting the AI with Trust Conference in Geneva and re-connecting with my tech and coaching friends and clients – which, after five years of therapeutic studies, feels like a perfect arrival to a balanced work.
Trauma stewardship is a concept of accepting that client’s story can be traumatising, so we need to notice the impact as soon as possible, learn to hold it, notice how it impacts us (what we keep in our mind and body) and finally what we have to and can put down.
We simply cannot walk the path without our tribe, our collective, and our support networks.
Oh, the self-care. What a buzzword, right. Yet, if we don’t know how to take care of ourselves, who will?