A compassionate voice protects us from the biases, projections and stories we tell ourselves about ourselves that come from others, from our past, and from our social context even.
So to practice a little bit of mindfulness, to stay in the moment, to connect with our feelings simply as they are (without any additional narratives), can be pretty liberating.
We learn and grow from mistakes. That is how we grow wiser.
So try: “I choose to be present with this feeling, face it and explore it to learn from it.”